Some things I have learned

- The fewer clothes you pack, the more books you can bring home.

- Your integrity is measured as much by the promises you keep with yourself as by those you keep for others.

- There is nothing on this earth more banal than calories.

- From men, seek neither affirmation nor adoration. Seek respect.

- Mail every letter the day you seal it.

- The difference between a child and an adult is recognizing that other people are real. Other people feel, other people hurt, other people want, and other people do not stop existing when you walk away or hang up.

- You have to be your own home, no matter how home-like someone else feels.

- Keep a journal. It holds you accountable for doing exactly what you want.

- To be in love is a state, and out of your control. To love is an action, and a decision you make and renew. A working definition for love: actively trying to understand and care for another person, as they change, as you change, constantly, always.

- Your friends are your life partners. Treasure them, nurture them. Strong friendship is the true "'til death do us part", no matter what the scripts say.

- If you're talking about it a lot, there's probably something wrong. Contentedness is a quiet tune you hum in your head.

- Curiosity has a longer shelf-life than lust.

- You are not who you think you could or should be; you are what you do.

- To change the narrative frame is to change everything.

- If a man looks at you with a certain glimmer in his eyes and say, "Let's just go to Paris": smile, dip your chin. Say nothing until the ticket is in your hand.